For Valentine’s Day, and in the spirit of couples, I’m sharing 14 tips to guide you through a healthier relationship with each other and your money.
If you’re interested in taking a simple little assessment along with your partner, stick around and I’ll share a link with you at the end.
- Pay Attention to the Clues.If you’re still in the early dating stages, listen and notice important clues for how your partner manages (or fails to manage) and thinks about money. Those financial habits are an incredible insight into someone’s values, ethics and priorities. Notice if they’re in alignment with your own money style and attitudes. Chances are, these patterns will stick around for a long time unless you both take conscious, intentional action to be aware and change these patterns if they are not a fit for the relationship.
- Are you Listening? Are you afraid, embarrassed or clueless around the topic of money? Find a gentle way to slowly broach the topic and talk. Listen to each other – not judge the conversation. Learn where you share values, priorities, and goals and where you differ. How can you find ways to get on the same page with money and see yourselves working more as a team?
Listen to each other so you each feel heard. Use the focused technique where one party talks for a set time, the other only listens and does not respond or question. And then trade places staying focused the same way and really hearing what your partner is saying.
Most people really just want to be heard. Keep asking and listening until you get to the core concern and both finally feel better understood. Read More →